If you are in a bad relationship, recently out of a bad relationship or looking for a relationship, you may want to read what Oprah has to say about it:
I think her words are very wise.
If a man wants you, nothing can keep him away.
If he doesn't want you, nothing can make him stay.
Stop making excuses for a man and his behaviour.
Allow your intuition (or spirit) to save you from heartache.
Stop trying to change yourself for a relationship that's not meant to be.
Slower is better.
Never live your life for a man before you find what makes you truly happy.
If a relationship ends because the man was not treating you as you deserve then heck no, you can't 'be friends'. A friend wouldn't mistreat a friend.
Don't settle.
If you feel like he is stringing you along, then he probably is
Don't stay because you think 'it will get better'
You'll be mad at yourself a year later for staying when things are not better.
The only person you can control in a relationship is you.
Avoid men who've got a bunch of children by a bunch of different women.
He didn't marry them when he got them pregnant, why would he treat you any differently?
Always have your own set of friends separate from his.
Maintain boundaries in how a guy treats you. If something bothers you, speak up.
You cannot change a man's behavior.* Change comes from within.
Don't EVER make him feel he is more important than you are...
Even if he has more education or in a better job.
Do not make him into a quasi-god.
He is a man, nothing more nothing less.
Never let a man define who you are.
Never borrow someone else's man.
If he cheated with you, he'll cheat on you.
A man will only treat you the way you ALLOW him to treat you.
All men are NOT dogs.
You should not be the one doing all the bending...
Compromise is two way street.
You need time to heal between relationships...
There is nothing cute about baggage...
Deal with your issues before pursuing a new relationship
You should never look for someone to COMPLETE you...
A relationship consists of two WHOLE individuals...
Look for someone complimentary...not supplementary.
Dating is fun...even if he doesn't turn out to be Mr. Right.
Never move into his mother's house. Never co-sign for a man.
Don't fully commit to a man who doesn't give you everything that you need.*
Keep him in your radar but get to know others.
Scared of being alone is what makes a lot of women stay in relationships that are abusive or hurtful: Dr. Phill
You should know that:
You're the best thing that could ever happen to anyone and if a man mistreats you, he'll miss out on a good thing. If he was attracted to you in the 1st place, just know that he's not the only one.
You have a lot of choices.
Make the right one.
Ladies take care of your own hearts....
2 comments:
I really like this because it puts the responsibility on us (women) for our actions. It amazes me how many wonderful, intelligent women I know who have "settled" for men who are horrific to them because those women were afraid of "ending up alone."
Hehehe, for a little humor to throw in, I want to comment on that "all men are NOT dogs" comment. Hehehe, it's so true.
Dogs are loyal.
Dogs don't care what you look like (unless you look like a cat, then you may have some running to do *LOL*).
Dogs love you for you (and for the food and belly rubs).
Dogs have perfected the puppy dog look (and are much easier to forgive for using it *LOL*).
If the dog does something wrong, you can put him outside to sleep.
If you're upset, dogs don't have work to do that'll keep them from comforting you.
Dogs have no problem with anything you do or don't do (unless you don't feed them, and if you forget to take them out for a walk, they'll get even by making a mess on your floor/carpet).
Dogs don't need time out with the guys, and don't drink.
Dogs cost less to keep, and they're not going to leave you for another dog (well... hopefully *LOL* I had a cat leave me for a female untamed cat, but then that's cats).
If your dog strays and puppies result, you don't have to worry about getting divorced, or feeling cheated. And there's no question of custody issues. No court involved! (At least, I don't think so. Can you be taken to court for your dog knocking up another dog?)
And (not exactly) last, but most definately not least, Dogs do NOT find you sexually attractive! *LOL*
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